Having trouble dating after divorce

After the stress of going through a divorce , it can be difficult to think about dating again. Everyone has their own timeline for when they might want to get out there. Even if you know your marriage is really, truly over, you still need to give yourself some time and space. Although it might be tempting to lick your wounds with positive attention from another, this distraction can actually inhibit you from the healing work that is necessary to move forward in a healthy way with someone in the future. Dating requires a certain amount of vulnerability, tolerance of uncertainty, and willingness to feel a range of emotions in the hopes of making positive new connections and relationships.

If you're a straight woman getting divorced, you might be afraid of what's going to happen. Will you ever have a date again? And if so, there can't be anyone good to date, right? One of the secrets you don't find out until you're back out there again is that men in the age range are high quality, and highly attractive. And it's not just their yummy greying hair. Whether they're divorced like you or never-married, guys over 35 are radically better than you think. Take heart.

Going through a divorce , no matter what the circumstances are, is never easy. The process itself is hard enough, so by the time it's over and you're left to deal with the aftermath, you can feel incredibly drained emotionally. It's not unusual to feel depressed, despondent, or maybe even afraid of what comes next. When you've spent a significant portion of your life with a person, how do you even begin to think about moving on?

Big time. And I get it. At least as much as someone who has never been there can.